Break the quitting habit one step at a time by finding the fear of success, putting it in the pipe of excuses, and watch the habit of quitting go up in smoke.
We have all known people who have tried to quit the habit of smoking. Often times, it is not a pretty sight. On the surface, it seems so simple for someone to just give up a bad habit. Just stop the habit and quit cold turkey! Unfortunately, this strategy doesn’t work for many. Just as an addiction may be tough to break, the quitting habit is not much different. You can find it in any environment. When faced with the challenge of reaching for peak performance, the quitting habit keeps someone from delivering on their potential.
People often resort to quitting because they fear stepping outside of their comfort zone and seek to avoid the pressure to perform at the next level. To help someone break the addiction of quitting, give them small achievable tasks to build up their confidence. Show them others with similar skill packages that have been able to achieve a higher level. Share with them that success is a challenge even for overachievers. Provide them with opportunities to engage in collegial partnerships minimizing inexperience.
Before you begin the challenge, map out your strategies with everyone’s input to establish ownership in the achievement. Try to make the endeavor fun and seek to instill some form of entertainment. You can always find the opportunity for comic relief no matter how tough the situation. When faced with a large challenge, break it into smaller successes to achieve the main goal. Use a personal journal to document the achievements of others to develop reminders for future goals.
If you fall short of the goal, admit the failure and build from it instead of rationalizing with excuses. You should know when to confront the quitter. There are times when confrontation is necessary and others when it can appear to be as overwhelming to the quitter as the challenge itself. Break down the strategies and coach the quitter one step at a time. Know their benchmarks and decide when it is best to change direction. Every achievement is the kindling that starts the fire burning away self-doubt.
The following are fire starters that smoke the quitting habit:
• Call on mentors to support the pursuit of the goal
• Present the challenge in clear terms to focus on strategies for success
• Grant room for mistakes
• Support solid decision-making with consistent execution
• Always choose persistence
• Failure is not an option!
When peak performance is finally derived, recognize it with the magnitude of its impact on the goal. Give equal recognition to those who delivered their best game and lost as you would to those who won. Plan to succeed and only quit when you finish everything you start.
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